by Carol Barash, PhD, founder and CEO, Story To College, and author of Write Out Loud
Last Wednesday night, I rushed out of the Princeton Club to catch the 8:50 NJ Transit train from Penn Station. I couldn’t find a cab, and the E train was packed and slow. By the time I reached Penn Station, the train was boarding.
I was making my way to the train, jammed in the crowd, when the strap of my bag broke. I started to slip as I reached to catch it. “Help, I’m falling,” I shouted and two men in front of me turned around. One caught me and the other saved my bag of books and papers. Nothing was broken—not even my high heels.
I ran into my friend Zev on the train and told him this story. “That’s crazy,” he said, “you should play the lottery tonight.”
But Sophie saw more than luck in my good fortune: “It’s amazing that your first response was to call for help, not to try to save yourself,” she said.
It’s taken me a long time to learn to ask for help, and I can trace most of my biggest blunders to not asking for help soon enough. If you’re like me and love to solve problems independently, that’s great, but you can’t do everything alone! Here are three areas where you’ll do yourself a favor by asking for help.